Be a Better YOU

My wife and I watched “The Social Dilemma” on Netflix the other night. I usually don’t watch something and begin recommending it to everyone I know, but I did with this one. This documentary shed some light on the truth of the monster we have created in social media and what we need to do in order to raise our awareness and combat it.

If you have kids, have kids that are addicted to their phones, have social media yourself, whatever it may be, it’s worth the watch.

Anyway, the main premise of the documentary was that social media has become a place for fake news and false information to gain traction and influence our minds. This is heavily related to the division we feel in our country.

But as I was watching the documentary, my fitness mind came to the forefront. I began to look at what they were saying through a health and fitness lens.

Sure, social media has clearly allowed more hate, division, and fake news to spread rapidly, causing us to lose our grip on the reality of our world we’re actually living in.

But I would also argue that social media has clearly allowed more self loathing to spread rapidly, causing us to destroy ourselves from the inside out.

Young impressionable girls are subconsciously being taught that their self-worth comes from pleasing men and using their body to do so. They begin to use and expose their bodies for likes and views. And if they don’t get those likes and views, they fall into the trap of believing that their body is not good enough, therefor THEY are not good enough.

They begin this vicious cycle of comparison, self-hate through diet and exercise, and then comparison again.

“My breasts aren’t big enough.”

“My butt isn’t shaped like hers.”

“Her waist is so much smaller than mine.”

I’m not a father, nor do I have any relatives that are young girls. But as I sit and write this, I feel so, so sad. My heart sinks with grief and sorrow for young girls out there.

As they critique themselves, they begin working to change in order to be more like another person and less like themselves. They start going to the gym to have a butt like so and so person. They start saving up money for botox so they can have lips like so and so person.

It is so heart wrenching.

The same goes for young boys.

“Girls will only like me if I have abs like he does.”

“Girls seem to like his earring. Maybe if I get one like that I’ll finally get the girls to like me.”

“My arms are so small, I want my arms to be like his.”

So they begin lifting, taking unnecessary supplements, and possibly even begin exploring steroids to look less like themselves and more like the other person.

This is all subconscious, of course. They aren’t telling themselves this directly. But don’t be mistaken, this is exactly what they are thinking even if they don’t know it.

And the issue doesn’t only lie in the mind of young boys and girls. It is present in all of our lives. I’ll be the first to admit that I fall into this trap.

“He is playing professional baseball, he is far more successful than me.”

“He gets to pitch in front of thousands of fans and live his dream. I guess I’m just not good enough for that.”

I’m aware that these thoughts come into my mind.

I’m willing to bet that you have some toxic thoughts, too.

Look, I had a direction when I began writing this, but right now in this moment I feel my hear aching for myself, for you, and for all the other people out there comparing themselves.

I’m just going to continue to write what my heart is calling me to write.

We mustn’t give into this toxic trap of comparison.

Now, don’t get me wrong, there is absolutely nothing wrong with improving yourself. Where the wrong lies is in the intention of why you want to improve yourself.

Are you aiming to improve yourself in order to be more like someone else you saw on your screen? If so, I have news for you. You will never be that person on the screen because you are NOT that person on the screen. You are YOU.

So instead, focus on improving yourself in order be the best version of YOU.

I fully believe that we were created with unique talents and gifts that were intended to be used in order to make our lives and other people’s lives better. So why not work on improving yourself in order to refine those talents and gifts so that this world can be a better place?

Being healthier and having more energy throughout the day will allow you to create better culture in your workplace. Being more fit may allow you to be more present with your children when they want to have play time with mommy or daddy. Being stronger in the gym will allow you to better learn how to mentally and physically overcome adversity in your life and your household. Being more mobile will keep you from injuries, allowing you to be more adventurous with your spouse.

I know that this is cheesy, but this world literally only has one of you, and this world is so much better off with you in it, living to your full potential.

There is no sense in working to be more like someone else. The world already has one of them.

It makes all the sense in the world to become the best, healthiest, fittest version of yourself because dammit, this world NEEDS you.

You were created with love and a purpose in mind. Don’t you dare undervalue that by comparing yourself to someone else.

That’s my heart today. Take it for what it’s worth.

Much love.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Adam is a fitness professional, baseball fan, and cookie fanatic based in Fort Collins, Colorado. After hanging up the cleats, he found a strong interest in the human body and how it performs. Since then, Adam has been transforming lives through fitness in a fun and encouraging atmosphere. As an ACE CPT and Fitness Nutrition Specialist, he is constantly moved to help people improve in all walks of life.

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What to do When You've Lost Motivation

The pandemic has us all flustered.

Many of us have lost the will to take care of our body.

We don’t want to workout anymore. We just want to kick back and eat what’s most convenient and tasty.

We are treating the pandemic like some sort of vacation.

AND THAT’S OK.

In today’s article I want to talk about what you can do if you’re in this boat.

So, you’ve lost all motivation to take care of yourself. What do you do?

ACCEPT IT

Listen, this is a really friggin’ weird time for all of us. To some, the world is the same. To others, their world was completely flipped upside down. It’s no wonder a lot of people have stopped caring to do things for their health.

And it is what it is.

I know, you likely expected the “no excuses” response, but really, how realistic is that?

When we are facing times that have our rhythms out of wack, we simply need to accept it and move on. So, if you don’t want to workout, eat healthy, or do whatever else you used to do, accept it. It is a reality. There is no sense in fighting that reality so stubbornly.

But what to do about it?

MOVE FORWARD

A lot of people think that moving forward means getting back to where you used to be. It doesn’t. It literally means “move forward”. Just like it says.

And that’s what you need to do.

One of the things I love teaching to my clients is that significant long-lasting transformation comes from tiny steps taken on a consistent basis. If fitness is anyone’s race, it’s the tortoise’s race.

Tiny changes compound to make big results over time.

So start by making tiny changes. If you currently walk 30 minutes per day, walk 45 minutes per day. If you run 20 minutes, run 25 minutes. If you eat 80g of protein, eat 90g of protein. Be a little bit better week by week.

In fact, that is your assignment and takeaway from this. Find ONE thing you want to improve, and focus on that one thing only. Let’s say it’s increasing the amount of greens you eat per day. Right now you get a serving of dark leafy greens two times per week. Set a goal of getting three servings of dark leafy greens per week. Once that is a habit, make it four, and so on. Once you’re at a point of getting one big serving of dark leafy greens each day without thinking about it, then move on to the next item you want to improve.

It’s not sexy, but it works.

And taking the time to turn those changes into real HABITS will pay off for years and years to come.

DO SOMETHING DIFFERENT

This helps me most when I am in times of low motivation.

As much as I enjoy strength training, there are times in my life when I really don’t feel like it. I am going through one of those times right now.

All I have at home is a set of bands and two dumbbells. Since the gyms are closed, that is what I have to work with.

I know tons of different things I can do to get similar results as I would at the gym. But if I’m not in the gym setting throwing heavy weight around, I just don’t really want to do it.

But I DO want to do other things. So I am capitalizing on that.

Right now I want to do some sprinting. I want to do some explosive work.

Will I lose some strength that I had when I was in the gym regularly? Probably. But that’s ok. That strength will come back. My priority right now is to keep myself from getting lazy.

If you’re finding yourself in a similar situation, I encourage you to do the same. Do what you WANT to do. If you’d rather do a weight circuit with your dumbbells than go on your scheduled run, do it. If you’d rather work on your mobility instead of doing sprints, do it.

Will you sacrifice some specific results that you may have wanted before this pandemic happened?

Maybe.

But the way I see it, it’s far better to keep yourself healthy than to get stuck into the life of a couch potato. When the gyms come back, the more active version of yourself will be ready to go back into that gym. The couch potato version of yourself won’t.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Accept that things have changed. It’ll keep you from getting frustrated and going nowhere.

• “Start where you are, use what you have, do what you can.” Move forward, no matter how small the step is.

• Change things up. If you want to do one type of training over the other, then do it. Keeping yourself healthy is the priority.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Adam is a fitness professional, baseball fan, and cookie fanatic based in Fort Collins, Colorado. After hanging up the cleats, he found a strong interest in the human body and how it performs. Since then, Adam has been transforming lives through fitness in a fun and encouraging atmosphere. As an ACE CPT and Fitness Nutrition Specialist, he is constantly moved to help people improve in all walks of life.

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This Mindset Shift Can Change Your Health and Fitness Forever

I don’t know if it’s an American thing, or a human thing, but we enjoy the ends of the spectrum. For some reason we enjoy choosing left or right, up or down. For some reason, we feel a need to go all in, or give up.

This is especially true in health, fitness, and nutrition. We go all the way in and give it our all, and as soon as we feel we haven’t done everything perfectly, we say f*** it and give it all up.

And this is the exact reason why most people fail when it comes to reaching their health and fitness goals. This is also the reason why people yo-yo. They lose 50 pounds and gain it all back, because they’re either dieting like a mad-man, or eating the whole tray of Girl Scout cookies.

It needs to stop. We need to stop living on one end of the spectrum. But how?

APPRECIATE THE LONG GAME

The first part of improving the way you think about your health and fitness is to first understand that your health and fitness is so much more than the goal you want to achieve in the next three months. Your health and fitness is about your quality of life now, tomorrow, next month, next year, and 20 years from now. Constantly striving for perfection is going to hurt you because perfection can’t be reached, you will always fall short. And perfection certainly doesn’t exist 20 years in a row.

Similar to almost anything in life, change starts by making small changes. Small changes compound to make big results. No one sits there and says “investing is pointless. Why would I invest $100 now? It’s better to invest 1 million dollars now.” That’s absurd. Anyone that understands and appreciates investing understands that it’s a long game and the sooner you start, the better, no matter how small the start is.

The same applies with your health, fitness, and nutrition. You need to have your eyes set on the long term, knowing that the decisions you make today, no matter how big or small, will contribute to a much better you down the road.

CHANGE YOUR MINDSET

Having said that, it’s absolutely crucial to change your mindset. You must stop living at one end of the spectrum, thinking you need to be perfect in every workout and every meal. You need to make a mindset shift. You need to make the shift towards simply being a little bit better.

That’s it.

Seriously.

All you need to do to completely transform the way you look, feel, and perform is focus on being a little bit better.

Let’s go back to the finances. I love the story of Ben and Arthur. Ben starts investing $2,000 per year at age 19, and stops at age 26. His brother, Arthur, starts investing at 27 years old, and stops at age 65. In total, Ben saved $16,000 and Arthur saved $76,000. At age 65, with a 12% return, Ben ends up with $2,288,996 and Arthur ends up with $1,532,166. That is a massive difference.

There are tons of variables that go into investments and returns like this. But the point is that Ben simply started making a dent, even if it was small, earlier than Arthur.

The same thing happens with health and fitness. The same exact thing. Those that choose to make a change now, even if it’s the smallest change, are completely different people down the road. Those that decided to go all in for a few months, and all out for another few months, are the same exact person as when they started.

Change your mindset. Don’t focus on being perfect. You won’t get there. Focus on being better. Focus on the ERs.

The ERs are the two magic letters at the end of words that make you a better person down the road. Don’t worry about being healthy today. Focus on being healthiER today than you were yesterday. Don’t worry about being the strongest today. Focus on being strongER today than you were yesterday. Don’t worry about being a super fit person today. Focus on being fittER today than you were yesterday.

You get the point. Make the mindset shift.

Let’s go through some ways you can apply this to your life right now.

MAKING THE SHIFT: REAL LIFE APPLICATIONS

There are a few different areas I like to have my clients focus on when they are moving toward any sort of goal.

The first is their performance in the gym. Most of look at our workouts as a means to an end, but that’s not the way to go about it. We need to be intentional and fully immersed in our workouts to see the results we want to see. We need to enjoy them for what they are.

In order to do this, I have my clients focus on setting at least two personal bests every time they workout. The app their program is uploaded on helps them keep track of personal bests and progress. Their job is to focus on adding more weight to the bar. My job is to change sets, reps, rest, etc., and their job is to focus on getting stronger.

You can and should do the same. Rather than focusing on a workout as a way to help you burn calories, focus on getting stronger in the workout. Remember, your workouts are not a means to an end. Challenge yourself to lift more than you did during last week’s workout. Do that week after week and you can completely change the way you look and feel.

The next thing I have my clients focus on is their activity during the day. I want them to be able to reach their goals and learn how to maintain them while maintaining a balanced lifestyle. Although burning tons of extra calories can help in some cases, I don’t want them adding more and more formal workouts to their days and weeks. That comes to be unsustainable very quick.

Rather than more and more workouts, I have them focus on increasing their steps. Adding steps in the day is a great way to make our lives more active and less sedentary.

Find out what your average step count was last week, and make a goal of increasing your average by 1k this week. Once that becomes a habit, increase it by another 1k. Before you know it, you’ll be living a more active life and that change will be far more sustainable than an extra hour of cardio each day.

Lastly, I have my clients apply this mindset shift to their nutrition. So many people want to be on a diet or meal plan, and quickly come to the realization that they can’t enjoy life at the same time. So, instead of doing that B.S., just focus on improving one thing about your nutrition. If you hardly ever eat any greens, try to get one serving of greens in per day. If you struggle eating enough protein, add an extra palm-sized serving of protein to your day. Maybe you just forget to eat and you don’t eat enough. Set an alarm on your phone reminding you to eat the snack you brought to work with you. Focus on one small thing, and make it better and better as each week goes by.

Don’t make things perfect. Make things better than they were, no matter how small.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Appreciate the long game. This is a long race, and it’s not going to end three months from now. Make changes that last.

• Make the mindset shift to stop living on one end of the spectrum. Just be a little bit better than you were last week.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Adam is a fitness professional, baseball fan, and cookie fanatic based in Fort Collins, Colorado. After hanging up the cleats, he found a strong interest in the human body and how it performs. Since then, Adam has been transforming lives through fitness in a fun and encouraging atmosphere. As an ACE CPT and Fitness Nutrition Specialist, he is constantly moved to help people improve in all walks of life.

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