Why Some Succeed and Others Don't

I remember when I first got into fitness and nutrition. I read articles out the wazoo and watched videos on YouTube like there was no tomorrow. Over time, I gained a lot of inspiration and I was ready to begin my fitness journey.

But there was one problem.

All of these videos I was watching were created by guys on drugs (nothing against steroids) who were jacked bodybuilders and nothing more.

Hear me out.

I don't mean to say that they are stupid, but they know their body, their biology, and what works from them. It would be difficult for them to relate to a 175-pound male who was just looking to improve his health and physique on a natural level. Not to mention the differences in lifestyle. I didn't want to each chicken and broccoli 7x/day nor did I want to spend three hours in the gym every day and completely cut out my social life.

My guess is you don't either. Don't you like pizza? Don't you like the occasional bowl of ice cream?

Duh. Of course you do. You're not weird. Don't you enjoy the ability to go out with friends and not feel like you have to be the odd ball out because you "can't" have a beer? What the heck is that? If you're not competing or reaching for an extremely challenging goal, there's no sense in taking it to the extreme and making your life miserable, am I right?

"Yes, you are right, Adam! But what are you getting at here?"

Well thank you for asking. Here's what I'm saying:

If fitness, you'll fail sometimes. But, you need to make sure you breed success from your failures. And it's a lot easier to believe you can succeed when you know that the other busy people in the world are crushing their goals, rather than idolizing and reaching for the results of some fitness model on instagram that lives a completely different life.

So, what I've decided to do is compile a list of items that successful clients of mine (and others) share in common. All these people do extremely well, and it's because they put in the work. But don't jump to conclusions here and assume they have all the time in the world. These people are mothers, fathers, business owners, employees with multiple jobs, volunteers, etc.

In fact, most of my clients that have a ton of success are all of those things (except being a mother and father, of course).

So the question is, how the heck do they do it?

I'm going to share the top FIVE things that have enabled my clients and other successful people to do well with an extremely busy and demanding life. These are not MY five reasons they're successful. These are the exact reason why THEY believe they do so well. These keys come straight from the sources.

A DRIVE TO IMPROVE THEMSELVES

Here's the thing. We get sick and tired of things. I know I do. I get sick and tired of commercials, and get sick and tired of "we" couples. I get sick and tired of my seemingly weak will power when it comes to binge-watching "The Office" on Netflix.

Well, not so much the last one.

What's interesting is that at some point, they got sick and tired of being sick and tired! They were sick and tired of countless hours on the treadmill, elliptical, spin bike, and stairmaster. They were sick and tired of turning cardio into some sort of mathematical equation in order to optimize fat loss.

Being truly sick and tired is one thing. We're all sick and tired of something on some level. It's finding the spark to make change that really matters. I have some good news and bad news for y'all on this one. The bad news: the spark that ignites the fire of intrinsic motivation can't be easily found. It's something that is different for all of us. We all think differently, and we're all moved on an emotional level in different ways. For some, it's knowing they'll be around to spoil their grandkids. For others, it's being able to spend hours tracking an animal in the middle of the woods. The good news: once you find that spark and the fire is lit, oh my gosh... the world better get the heck out of your way.

Once you reach a point of seriously being sick and tired of being sick and tired, find your spark and ignite a fire.

A PLAN TO FOLLOW

Shooting in the dark is dangerous, stupid, and pointless. Unless you're in a horror/thriller movie and it's your only option for survival. That's a bit different. Thankfully, you're in a real life scenario and shooting in the dark isn't your only option. You have the ability to look almost anywhere for a plan. And when I say anywhere, I mean the internet. Have you met the internet? It's nuts.

Fitness plans, coaches, trainers, nutritionists, workout videos, e-books, and more are available with one single internet search. If you're willing to find a plan to stick to, it's too easy to find any plan out of hundreds of thousands. Clients that opt for coaching realize that finding a custom-tailored plan with accountability was something that would get them to their goal and off their plateau.

I know what you're thinking. This is NOT a shameless plug for my coaching services. Their desire to seek a coach was theirs in the first place. I have never persuaded someone to work with me. That's a big no-no in my book. If I had to do that, it would be a pretty big red flag telling me that they might not do so well. All of the successful people I've worked with are people that understood they needed help and accountability, and they went out of their way to find it.

My most successful clients realized this, and sought out help. I've found that the most successful individuals are those that understand they can learn from anyone and everyone. They believe in themselves to do the work and understand that guidance and accountability will get them to a level they may not have been able to do on their own.

CLARITY

My only job is to impact people's lives through fitness. Because of this, it is an absolute necessity that I'm great at what I do. This means that I will always be looking, always seeking clarity. There are aspects of fitness and nutrition that I don't know about yet, and it will always be that way. Because of that, I'm constantly taking in information and constantly asking questions. For those who succeed in their fitness, it's the exact same.

Although my coaching is custom-tailored, there are still obstacles that come up for my clients.

Why?

Well, that's life. Sh*t happens.

My clients know that a lot of their success comes from the ability to reach out to me for clarity when needed. Not only do they understand that, but they utilize it tirelessly. The individuals that do well are the ones that reach out and say:

"____ happened, what do I do?"

"You said we're doing ____ this week. Why?".

It's simple. Those who do best are those who are most open to learn.

ABILITY TO MAKE ADJUSTMENTS (AND SACRIFICES)

This ties in with the previous statement, but we need to shine some more light on it. Ladies and gents, we all need flexibility. Whether it comes to fitness, or finding a daycare for your kids that works with your schedule, your mental, physical, and emotional health are at their best when flexibility is an option.

Here's why:

It's pretty simple, really. Life doesn't give a crap about your schedule or whatever it is you want to do in the day. Things can change at the snap of a finger. Traffic can jam up in an instant. Your family member could run out of gas on the side of  the road. Crap will ALWAYS be thrown at you. One of the games of life is not controlling everything in order to have less crap thrown at you, it's how well you manage the crap that is thrown at you.

Thankfully, the plans that I give my clients allow them to assign their own workout days. If their schedule only allows training on Tuesdays, Thursdays, and Saturdays, then they move their workouts to those days on their profile. I also adjust their food intake accordingly. They have freedom to eat with flexibility which makes adherence easier.

They also make adjustments in different ways, too. You know, I shouldn't really use the word "adjustments" for this scenario. "Sacrifices" is a more appropriate word.

Sure, having the ability to reach goals with flexibility is a huge help. But what I've noticed is that when push comes to shove, those that succeed and achieve their goals are the ones that are willing to make sacrifices (adjustments) to get there.

If life throws them a busy week, they prep meals the Sunday before in order to combat it. If their kid runs into an emergency in the morning, they cut time out of their afternoon to get their workout it. If they feel coaching is a little out of their budget, they cut other areas of their spending down because they understand their health is most important.

It's simple. They make sacrifices.

Be willing to make sacrifices, or be prepared for life to run you over.

CELEBRATING VICTORIES

Along with K.I.S.S., we're all about celebrating victories at Poehlmann Fitness. It's not just me, though. My clients are all about celebrating victories, too.

It is far too easy to let the negatives of life weigh you down. This is one big differentiator between those that reach their goals and those that don't.

Those that reach their goals are those that solely focus on wins. Whether they're massive wins like setting a new squat record, or small wins like eating a serving of greens, successful individuals focus on wins.

Those that don't do well are the those that dwell on the negatives over and over, eventually convincing themselves that they're just not cut out to do well.

Focus on your wins, and build off them. Dwelling on failure is a waste of your time. Do yourself a favor and focus on your wins.

THE TAKEAWAY

The successes that we've discussed may not look the exact same for every individual, but the truth is that we can all benefit from the topics discussed in today's article. Great health and an amazing body is waiting for you, right in front of your face. All you need to do is be willing to reach out and grab it. The reach may not be easy, but it's always worth it.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Adam is a fitness professional, baseball fan, and cookie fanatic based in Fort Collins, Colorado. After hanging up the cleats, he found a strong interest in the human body and how it performs. Since then, Adam has been transforming lives through fitness in a fun and encouraging atmosphere. As an ACE CPT and Fitness Nutrition Specialist, he is constantly moved to help people improve in all walks of life. If you’re interested in hiring Adam as your coach, fill out an application here.

How to Get Toned and Defined

Alright ladies, this one is for you. Guys, read up as well. You'll learn something.

In all my years of training and coaching, there's still one question that I get more than any other.

"I want to get toned and defined. How do I do that?"

Not to fear, girls. I'm here to help. But before I go into detail on what it takes to become "toned" and "defined", I'd first like to discuss what exactly those words mean.

As much as some might not want to admit it, "toned" and "defined" are words that girls have identified with over the years, because "build muscle" and "cut" are words that are more associated with massive bodybuilders who are so big, they can barely wipe their own butt. There is a fear out there that has kept women from wanting to build muscle, and it must come to a stop!

Ladies, listen for a sec. You simply WILL NOT get as big as those guys are. If you prioritize muscle-building, you won't be as big as most average men. Not even close. You don't have the same genetic makeup, and your testosterone is far too low. However, if you do prioritize muscle-building, guess what you WILL be?

Toned and defined!

Now we're talking. So ladies, let go of the fear that you'll get too big and bulky, let go of the fear that tells you you'll look like a guy, and embrace the message that tells you you'll look toned, defined, and absolutely stunning.

So what exactly does it take to get there? It takes two things, both you are probably aware of.

1. Burn Fat

2. Build Muscle

I'm sure you're sitting there thinking "duh, of course Adam. I know that."

I know you do ;). I just want to break them down for you a bit more so you can implement some practices into your life.

BURNING FAT

As you know, the the more fat that you have over your lean muscle mass, the harder it's going to be to look toned and defined. So, the key to seeing all that rock hard muscle is going to be taking down your body fat percentage.

Here are some key factors that play a big role in fat loss:

1. Genetic makeup

2. Basal Metabolic Rate and TDEE

3. Caloric deficit

Going over genetic makeup is easy... Ready? You can't change your genetic makeup. Boom, that one was easy to go over. It's not too encouraging, though. Although you can't completely change your genetics, there are things you can do to improve the way your body uses fuel (calories) like improving your BMR (basal metabolic rate).

BMR is a fancy way of telling you how many calories your body burns at rest. So, if you were to binge watch a show on Netflix all day long from the minute you wake up to the minute you go back to sleep, that's how many calories you'd be burning. Think of your BMR as the engine in a car. If your BMR is low, your engine is like a Prius. It will sit with the engine on FOREVER and won't run out of gas. If your BMR is high, your engine is like that of a semi-truck. If you leave it sitting with the engine on, the gas will go quick (given that both vehicles have the same amount of gas). When it comes to fat loss, a higher BMR is optimal because it'll allow you to handle a caloric deficit in a much healthier way. Having a BMR of 2,000 calories and eating in a deficit at 1,700 calories would be more tolerable (because you could eat more) than a BMR of 1,100 calories and eating in a deficit of 800 calories. Ya feel?

How do you improve your BMR?

One of the best things you can do to increase the amount of calories your body burns at rest, is increase the amount of lean muscle that your body has (more on that later). Muscle takes a lot of energy/calories to maintain, so the more you have, the better. And again, I'm not talking bodybuilder muscle. Even a few pounds of lean muscle can make a difference.

Here's a simple calculation you can do to estimate your BMR: BMR = 370 + (21.6 x lean mass in kg)

Not only is a high BMR important when it comes to fat loss, but so is your TDEE. TDEE stands for total daily energy expenditure. Simply put, the amount of total calories you burn in a day. This includes calories burned from BMR, exercise, walking, digesting food, everything that uses fuel. Increasing your total calorie burn or TDEE is another great way to promote fat loss. The more calories your are burning in a day, the easier it will be to eat in a caloric deficit.

Here's how you can estimate TDEE: TDEE = BMR x 1.3-1.7*

*Note - 1.3-1.7 is a multiplier depending on your activity level throughout the day. If you are sedentary, use 1.3. If you are extremely active (like a personal trainer or construction worker) use 1.7.

Once you know your BMR and TDEE, it's time to figure out the size of your deficit.

Determining the size of your deficit should be a reflection of how soon you want to reach your goal, as well as how you want to live your life while working toward the goal. If you're someone who wants to reach your goal real quick, and will do absolutely anything it takes to get there, a bigger deficit may be better. If you wan to take it slow and smell the roses, a smaller deficit may be better. For example, if you enjoy getting drinks with your friends, eating out a ton, and know you will slack off here and there, decreasing the size of your deficit and prolonging your deadline may be a good idea. Either way, be extremely realistic and honest with yourself. Another thing you may want to consider is the end game. Think beyond your goal. Do you want to get to your goal quick, and then focus in on preventing a rebound? Or, would you rather take a year or so to hit your goal knowing that your new body will be easier to maintain down the road? I say this because usually goals that are achieved with more drastic measures usually take drastic measures to maintain. Think about all the things you have done in the past that gave you immediate results. I'm willing to bet that soon after you got those results, you plateaued, and then eventually put all the weight back on, if not, even more. So, take that into consideration. If your long term goal and end game is a healthy and lean physique that is easy to maintain, I always recommend going slow and steady. Rather than aiming to lose 20 pounds as quick as possible, aim to lose 20 pounds in a year while maintaining muscle mass and developing healthy eating habits. Going that route will make living lean and healthy a lifestyle instead of a regimen.

Being aware of your genetic makeup, your BMR/TDEE, and the size of your caloric deficit will help you create a path toward fat loss. But, all that fat loss isn't going to matter if you don't have any muscle to show off.

BUILDING MUSCLE

As I stated before, muscle is gong to be a key component to that toned and defined look. It will aid in increasing the amount of calories you burn at rest (making fat loss easier), as well as giving you the definition you're looking for at higher body fat percentages. Whether it's a 25-year-old trying to build a six-pack, or a 45-year-old wanting to make her arms and thighs less flabby, I always recommend thickening the muscles in those areas. The thicker and more dense those muscles are, the more they will pop even at higher body fat percentages. When you build the muscles in your problem areas, looking toned and defined will be easier since you won't have to get to extremely low body fat percentages just to see a bit of muscle.

The key factors that play a role in building muscle are similar to losing fat:

1. Genetic Makeup

2. Basal Metabolic Rate and TDEE

3. Caloric Surplus

When it comes to building muscle, genetics play a big role here just as much as they do in fat loss. Certain individual's genetic makeup makes it easy for them to put on muscle, whereas others may have genetics that simply takes more work to build lean muscle. It is what it is. Some of us were born with that, and some of us weren't. We can't sit here and complain about how it's unfair, but what we CAN do is figure out what it takes to build lean mass.

Knowing your BMR and TDEE is extremely important as well, because it'll allow you to calculate how many calories you should eat in a day in order to be in a caloric surplus. More often than not, muscle growth comes from eating more calories than you burn in a day, along with proper training. Only in novice exercisers might you see an increase in lean tissue while in a caloric deficit.

Treat your surplus the same as you would your deficit. The bigger your surplus is, the more risk you run of putting on body fat. So, if you want to stay as lean as possible and don't mind taking your time, make your surplus smaller and slowly increase your caloric intake as your body adapts. Keep track of your weight and make adjustments as needed.

MAKING ADJUSTMENTS

Whether you're trying to lose fat or build muscle, keeping track of the changes your body makes is going to be essential. One of the ways I do this with my coaching clients is by monitoring weight changes. Whenever I'm working toward a specific goal I do this as well. Each day, I weigh myself first thing in the morning. I keep a log of those weights in my phone, and figure out the average at the end of each week. If my goal is fat loss and I see changes in the wrong direction, I may decrease my caloric intake. If I see changes in the right direction, I'll leave things as is until I maintain/plateau. Knowing exactly what your body is taking in and putting out will enable you to make changes to your regimen that WILL work.

TAKEAWAYS

Looking toned and defined simply comes down to losing body fat, and having dense, lean muscle underneath to show off. If you want to lose body fat, live in a caloric deficit and make adjustments when needed. If you want to build muscle, live in a caloric surplus and make adjustments when needed. No matter what, keep track of everything you're doing that way you can identify problems and make solutions.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Adam is a fitness professional, baseball fan, and cookie fanatic based in Fort Collins, Colorado. After hanging up the cleats, he found a strong interest in the human body and how it performs. Since then, Adam has been transforming lives through fitness in a fun and encouraging atmosphere. As an ACE CPT and Fitness Nutrition Specialist, he is constantly moved to help people improve in all walks of life. If you’re interested in hiring Adam as your coach, fill out an application here.

Be A Mediator

Balls to the wall, no days off, I'll rest when I'm dead. We've all said things like this, or heard someone say it before.

But why?

Why do we feel like we shouldn't take any days off? Why do we feel like we have to give 110% effort every time when we go to the gym? Why do we feel like we have to give 110% 6 days/week, and only rest one? Why do we need 1 gram of protein per pound of body weight? WHY?!?!?!

Well, that's what we've been told. That's why.

The fitness industry kinda reminds me of school these days (just a heads up, don't read any further if you're easily offended). I'm not sure if you remember your school days and what they were like, but I'm willing to bet that it included a lot of doing things you didn't want to. It included a lot of things you were told would be useful in your life, and it included a lot of things that you found to be the exact opposite. It was probably an environment where the question "why?" was forbidden. Asking "why?" got you in trouble, so you just did what you were asked to do because, well, that's "just the way it is." I found the same thing to be true in my education, especially when I got to college. Believe it or not, I found college (a place of higher learning) to be one of the most dogmatic environments I have ever been in. Critical thinking wasn't encouraged. Challenging educators was absolutely forbidden. Professors weren't interested in truth, facts, observations, and findings. All they cared about was being right. Now, I obviously can't assume that everyone's experience was the same as mine, and it's not fair for me to say that all professors are like that, but I have seen that same thing play out in the education of current students. A student I know walked into her first class at her new college and the first thing that came out of the professor's mouth was "Here are 5 reasons that God doesn't exist and why it would be stupid to believe that he does."

Now, I'm not here to get into some sort of theological debate, I'm just using this as an example. The point I'm making here is that when we are taking in information in a educational setting, it is extremely rare that we have the opportunity to be a mediator. It's rare that we get to be challenged. It's rare that we have the opportunity to challenge already existing thought. It's just rare that we get to be a mediator. What I mean by saying that is that it's rare to have the opportunity to sit down, hear multiple viewpoints, assess and analyze facts, take in data, and come to a conclusion based on the provided information. It seems that if we want to have that experience in an educational setting, we need to go out of our way and create that for ourselves.

Believe me, I am NOT going to sit here and point fingers without looking back and confessing my own mistakes. When I first began my career as a fitness coach at 19, I did the same exact thing. I told people that they needed to eat 6 small meals a day in order to keep their metabolism running. I told people they needed to lift one body part per week in order to build muscle and burn fat. I told people that they needed a protein shake immediately after a workout or else their entire workout would go to waste. I was a dogmatic individual. I wanted to be right and I didn't want to be challenged, because my insecurities lead me to believe that not knowing was a sign of inferiority; a sign of stupidity.

I DIDN'T take the time to be a mediator.

As my obsession for health and fitness grew, I came to understand that growth and knowledge doesn't come from being right, it comes from a desire to find truth. Upon implementing that into my life more and more, I began to challenge what I had previously thought was right. Throughout that process, I found the fitness industry to be dogmatic, telling the masses that x, y, and z is right, so you should buy this product.

"Train one body part per week, because that's what the big guys on stage do. They also drink this pre-workout so you should, too."

"Drink our post-workout shake in order to reap all the benefits of your workout. If you don't, your workout will go to waste."

Statement after statement, I found most of what I thought to be true, to be a bunch of marketing gimmicks to try to get me on their side (to purchase their product).

Now, there's nothing wrong with trying to get someone to see what you believe because you believe it's true. Nothing wrong with that at all. But I will argue that it's wrong to use someone's insecurities to sway them into purchasing a product or buying into a concept, especially when you're not going to give them all of the information, and let them make a decision of their own.

So, maybe the fitness industry isn't too far off track, since they're providing some information.

But, they are.

Companies should be giving out information that is not biased, or dogmatic. Biased and dogmatic information shows that they care about their product more than they care about their customer.

I shouldn't have told people to eat 6 meals per day without looking into it. But, I was too concerned with wanting to be "right", and "an expert".

All of the blame can't fall on big companies trying to sell us stuff. We need to look in the mirror, too.

Whenever we're told something, I believe we shouldn't just accept it to be true for two reasons:

1. If we don't look into it ourselves, how will we really know if it's true?

2. If and when we find out it's true, it'll resonate with us more because we took the time to really understand the underlying concepts.

Here's an example:

If you've been following me for a while, you know that I tend to bash diets quite a bit. I find them to be restricting, dogmatic, and life-sucking. However, when I create content that expresses that opinion, I always give my best effort to explain why. I make sure to give the big rocks, the big underlying truths that I use to believe what I believe. I give my best effort to explain why a certain diet isn't the magical answer to fat loss by providing the big rocks that truly matter. In a nutshell, instead of saying "diets suck, they don't do anything magical for fat loss", I try to make it a point to educate my audience on why I believe that without using their insecurities to sway them. So rather, I'd say something like "diets aren't the answer to fat loss, because there are lot of factors that come into play with fat loss, such as lean muscle tissue, training style, calories in vs. calories out, and more. The ketogenic diet isn't magical. What the ketogenic diet usually does is cause people to eat less processed, calorie-dense foods which allows them to burn more than they're eating in a day, causing them to lose body fat." That is more tangible information that the audience can look into, or ask me more about. Sure, I may not always be the best at doing that, but I do care about my audience so I go out of my way to provide all kinds of information because I want my audience and clients to be empowered. I want them to be self-sufficient. They shouldn't have to always rely on an "expert" because I claim to know everything. Should I build trust with them so they can reach out and ask for my insight? Of course! But ultimately my answers, responses, content, advice, and insight should serve to educate and empower, not to be "right."

Understand what I'm getting at? I hope so.

Look, here's all I'm trying to say:

Take the time to learn. Take the time to understand.

Ask "why?" often. Challenge your own thought process often.

Humble yourself, and never be afraid to use the words "I don't know."

Most of the time, acknowledging the fact that you don't know, and taking the time to admit that to yourself leads you down a path that allows you to grow, and eventually, know.

I love you guys. Thanks for reading. :)

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ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Adam is a fitness professional, baseball fan, and cookie fanatic based in Fort Collins, Colorado. After hanging up the cleats, he found a strong interest in the human body and how it performs. Since then, Adam has been transforming lives through fitness in a fun and encouraging atmosphere. As an ACE CPT and Fitness Nutrition Specialist, he is constantly moved to help people improve in all walks of life. If you’re interested in hiring Adam as your coach, fill out an application here.